My son goes to this Marshal Arts school, Ben's Shaolin Kongfu, in Sunnyvale. It is not a bad school. The masters are mostly in their early 20s, been practicing kongfu from very young age. All nice people, kind, friendly, humble, and that....
One of my son's best friends is a Ukranian 5 year old cute little boy, George. Here is a story that his mom just told me today. It happened yesterday. And she thought it was a little disturbing. I agree, to say the least.
The classroom is typically little dirty there. Just think what a bunch of single guys in their 20s can keep up. It is probably not surprising. Then one of the moms, a Japanese lady, volunteered to get a garbage bag and started collecting water bottles and other objects randomly laying on the floor. In the same room at the time were 2 teachers, who were busy snacking, other 10-ish moms all with their kids, who were busy idling, and this Ukranian mom. The Ukranian mom helped, but this was the only help that Japanese mom got, not that she requested though.
OK, now, isn't it rather those masters' responsibilities to keep the room clean? But they did not even help. Well, this is even less of a problem. But the kids there, who still have a long way to become shaped to be good, kind and responsible people, get absolutely no good influence from the teachers or their parents.
I dont know how the Japanese mom thought, since I never talked to her. But this Ukranian mom certainly did not appreciate this. Imaging someone visited your home and helped you vacuum the floor and you just sit there on the couch snacking. Worse than that. Your kids are there too, say also snacking.
Marshal Art is a Chinese thing. I see it a great thing to get some non Chinese to bring their kids to learn it. We all like to be appreciated. Those who did not help clean happen to be all Chinese. The who helped clean happened to be all NOT Chinese. Even worse. It is widely believed that the Chinese here in Silicon Valley are in average much better educated, comparing the ones in other places in the world, including China. I can't see what other picture could be more disturbing to a Chinese than this one. It cant be said that Chinese are not good people, because it is simply stupid and not true. But just what is missing here?
一个乌克兰母亲今天告诉我，昨天她带儿子去一个武术学校学武术。开课前，一个日本母亲向老师要了一个垃圾袋，开始义务清理起垃圾。那间屋子里真的是很脏。 她填满了一个垃圾袋的水瓶子，盒子，袋子等。在场的有10几位家长，2个武术老师，10几个8-9岁的孩子，只有这个乌克兰的妈妈在帮助这个日本妈妈在清 理别人的垃圾。老师（中国人）和其他家长（中国人）没有帮助，更难以接受的是他们也没有让那些孩子们帮助。这是发生在San Jose的故事。这里的中国人多是国内的“人尖子”来的。乌克兰母亲说，这在西方是 - 她作了一个双眼大睁最大张的样子. 这不就是网友们说的冷漠么? 大人们的冷漠本身且不计. 大人们如此对孩子们的身教更令人担心. 近日读到多个关于国际上评比各国人的总体形象的,日本人多是在前1-2名. 中国人多是在后1-2名. 这不会是完全公平的,但肯定不是完全不公平的.
